Preparing your child for a new sibling
By Piklo · September 21, 2026 · 1 min read
A new baby is a big upheaval for the older child. Well prepared, they'll experience the change as an adventure rather than a threat. The key: talk about it in advance, involve them and reassure them that their place stays unique.
Talk early and simply
Share the news with words suited to their age, without over-anticipating how long is left. Answer their questions honestly. Reading stories about a new baby helps the child picture it and put words to what will change.
Involve them without overloading
Invite them to take part: choosing an outfit for the baby, preparing the room, imagining names. Feeling involved reduces anxiety. Still, avoid making everything revolve around the baby: the older child needs to feel their life goes on.
Preventing jealousy
Jealousy is normal and nothing to worry about. After the birth, carve out moments just for them, keep their usual routines and value their role as the big one without making it a burden. Welcome their emotions, even negative ones, without guilt-tripping them.
Celebrating their new role
A child proud to be a big brother or sister gets involved more willingly. A book where they become the hero welcoming the baby, surrounded by the whole family, positively anchors this new status and shows them they keep a special place.
Frequently asked questions
When should we tell the older child about a new baby?
Early enough to get used to the idea, but with concrete markers (for example 'when it's warm out'), since toddlers have a limited sense of time.
Is sibling jealousy normal?
Absolutely. It's a healthy reaction to change. What matters is welcoming the emotion and preserving special moments with the older child.
How can we keep the older child from feeling left out?
Keep their routines, set aside time just for them, and value their role as the big one without turning it into an obligation.