Nightmares and night terrors: how to respond
By Piklo · September 21, 2026 · 1 min read
Nightmares and night terrors often worry parents, but they're two different phenomena, generally harmless. Knowing how to tell them apart helps you respond the right way and get back to calmer nights.
Nightmare or night terror?
A nightmare happens in the second half of the night: the child wakes, is scared, remembers the dream and seeks comfort. A night terror happens early in the night: the child screams, seems agitated or panicked, but is actually still asleep and won't remember any of it.
How to respond in the moment
For a nightmare, reassure, hold them, use simple words and stay until they settle. For a night terror, don't try to wake the child: just make sure they can't hurt themselves and wait for it to pass. The next day, there's no need to bring it up if they don't remember.
Reducing how often they happen
Tiredness, stress and a too-late bedtime encourage both. A calming bedtime routine, regular hours and no screens or scary stories before bed reduce their frequency. A well-rested child has fewer night terrors.
Reassurance about how long they last
These episodes are common between ages 2 and 6 and space out with age. Gentle bedtime stories and a reassuring environment help the child approach the night calmly. If episodes are very frequent or intense, talk to your pediatrician.
Frequently asked questions
What's the difference between a nightmare and a night terror?
A nightmare wakes the child, who remembers the dream. A night terror happens early in the night; the child seems agitated but stays asleep and remembers nothing.
Should I wake a child during a night terror?
No. It's better to keep them safe and wait for the episode to pass. Waking them may disorient them further.
How can I reduce nightmares?
A calming bedtime routine, regular hours, no screens or scary stories before bed, and a well-rested child.