Making the first day at daycare a success
By Piklo · September 21, 2026 · 1 min read
The first day at daycare or with a childminder is a big step, for the child and the parents alike. Well prepared, the separation goes much more smoothly. The goal: for the child to feel safe and understand that you always come back.
Making the most of settling in
Most settings offer a gradual settling-in period: a few hours first, then longer days. Use it so the child gets used to the place, the faces and the rhythm, with you present and then without you. Don't skip this step, even if everything seems fine.
A short, clear goodbye ritual
Create a little goodbye ritual, always the same: a kiss, a phrase, a wave at the window. Leave decisively, without slipping away in secret, which would worry the child, or dragging it out, which increases anxiety. A clear departure reassures more than a hesitant one.
Objects that reassure
A comfort toy, a familiar object or a piece of clothing that smells of home helps the child bridge the two worlds. Tell them the day before in simple words, and talk about the day with enthusiasm rather than worry: children pick up on our emotions.
After the separation
A few tears at drop-off are normal and often stop quickly once the parent has left. Reunite with the child calmly and attentively. Stories where a hero lives their first day away from home, then finds their parents again, help the child understand and take the drama out of the moment.
Frequently asked questions
How do I handle tears at separation?
Stay calm, give a brief ritual goodbye, then leave decisively. Tears often stop quickly once the parent has gone.
Should I leave discreetly to avoid tears?
No. Slipping away in secret worries the child. A clear goodbye, even amid tears, reassures them that you'll come back.
How long does settling in take?
Usually one to two weeks, but every child has their pace. A gradual period makes the transition much easier.